What Dooce and I Have in Common

I knew I shared some common ground with fellow mommy blogger Heather Armstrong aka “Dooce”. Well, okay, not the big advertising dollars or the swearing but we both have “hot geek” husbands! Recently I learned we share even more in common.

I have to give bloggie kudos to Heather for her recent post. Yesterday she shared with her readers some diary entries from her late teens. Reflecting on who we were and looking at who we’ve become is an eye opening experience. Being an avid Diary keeper I often do this myself as it helps me better understand and learn from all I’ve been through and overcome. Her post went on to talk about how her opinions and values changed over the years and how she grew and matured as she started thinking for herself. She closed her post by boldly stating her support for the No on Prop 8 campaign (even though she’s not a CA resident). Of course the flurry of comments were a mixed bag of “Good for you” and “Shame on you” though thankfully the shaming finger waggers were few and far between. In reading some of the negative comments the ignorance of some people came glaringly through. It’s rather shameful that the people who assert their belief in “family values” are the same people who seek to dismantle and vilify others’ families. The folks who claim that religion is part of whatever topic they are debating are the same folks that ignore the other principles of their own faith by judging others, treating them unfairly and a host of other things they seem to ignore. People are using a “pick and choose” plan to suit them when convenient. But that’s a whole other story.

It was nice to see another mommy blogger speaking up to share her view on an issue like this that doesn’t affect her personally but sure affects others in a very negative way. I wish more people would do this. Sadly, we’re seeing quite the opposite lately; folks whose lives are not in any way affected by a proposition seeking to get it passed just to negatively affect others’ lives. Since I’ve already written a post on this issue [California is too Great for Hate] I won’t go into much more other than to say this: people need to understand what this issue is about-- basic civil rights for a group of human beings. And that is something worth blogging about.


Anonymous said...

Again, I am behind you 100%.....

Anonymous said...

The first question to be answered is why do we allow/expect the government (society) to be involved in setting up laws concerning human sexuality and commitments to each other at all. Why is that? What is the purpose of it?

If you can answer that with historical accuracy you then understand why it makes no sense to dilute that point by changing it to be about "love" or "commitment" between any two people.

From one who attended her gay sister's commitment ceremony, and has a gay ex (father of her eight children) with whom she is on good terms. And I don't think many people find me to be hateful, mean or uneducated. But maybe I'm wrong about that. My gay sister says I'm not.

Anonymous said...

PS You know I think highly of you, and know you are sincere in your concerns. I hope you will take my comments in the same way and that we can agree to disagree on this without my response being taken to mean I'm ignorant, mean or worse an unthinking slave to my religion.

Especially since that isn't the reason for my opinion. It's based on a two decade long serious study I've undertaken concerning mankind and the mores of hundreds of different cultures with a variety of beliefs throughout the millenia.

Since I believe in extremely limited government my first question was why is government involved in this at all?

Anonymous said...

I do wonder, like Margaret, why government needs to be involved in people's lives in such an intimate way.

However, wondering WHY doesn't change the fact that IT IS. Government is involved in people's lives right down to whether they choose to wear a seatbelt and in some states, whether they choose to have sex in any way other than "standard". That is just a fact. A sad fact, yes, but a fact just the same.

I applaud you for standing up for what you believe in. Back in 2000, when Prop 22 was on the ballot, I worked along side such a diverse crowd as we called voters urging them to vote NO on 22. The sign my husband and I had in our yard was stolen EVERY DAY, and again EVERY NIGHT.

What about allowing people to get married if they want to takes the value away from any one else's marriage? The only people who can de-value MY marriage are the people IN IT.

Hopped over from BlogHer - and so glad I did!

Anonymous said...

Do we really want another Sodom and Gomorrah on our hands? I know that the Bible says not to judge, but then it also goes on to say that we must have a righteous judgement. Would you let a bunch of drunk, drug using molesters into your home to have dinner or babysit? I am in no way comparing the two, just that we have to keep our families safe in the choices we make.

SuddenlySouthernCyndi said...

To Anonymous:
I would not let “a bunch of drunk, drug using molesters into my home to have dinner or babysit” however, I would have any nice couple (gay, lesbian, straight, married or not) into my home to have dinner or babysit without any qualms. You state you are not comparing the two, but clearly you are by the very fact that you’ve used this to illustrate your point. I absolutely agree that we have to keep our families safe in the choices we make. I don’t however see any connection between loving, adult committed couples being legally married and the safety or lack thereof for our families. The fact that some people make that absurd connection is why this issue is surrounded by ignorance, bigotry and hatred. And that is very, very sad.

Sra said...

Civil Rights, that's really the bottom line. It's shameful that our country hasn't recognized this yet. We look back on our treatment of blacks in our history and know we were wrong, but we don't see that we're doing the same thing to gays.

FYI, your link to this post under the Favorite Posts sidebar is broken.